Kevin Wieting said he knew Jancie Hatcher was special early in the relationship.
The Duluth man said he knew he wanted to marry the Dawsonville woman because she is the first person he thinks about in the morning and the last one he thinks about before falling asleep at night.
When Wieting popped the question last month, he not only asked for her hand in marriage, but professed his love for all to see Jan. 18 with a classified ad in the Dawson County News and The Times in Gainesville.
“I wanted to do something more romantic and thoughtful, something more memorable,” the 53-year-old Duluth man said.
He said he chose to place the ad because Hatcher loves to read the newspaper, and they have a tradition where she reads part of the paper to Wieting.
The ad didn’t have any names but featured a photograph of the couple. It also included an inside joke between the two and Wieting’s feelings for Hatcher.
It read: “You are the most astonishingly, amazing pulchritudinous woman I have ever known. I want to marry you because you’re the first person I want to see when I wake up in the morning and the only one I want to kiss goodnight. From the first time I saw you, I couldn’t imagine not holding your hands. I want to hold you with tenderness you deserve and patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and share silence when they are not. I want to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home. Will you marry me?”
Pulchritudinous means extremely beautiful, but can only be used to describe human beings. Wieting chose the word because they are both fairly educated and it’s something he calls her regularly.
The ad also referenced the couple’s introverted-nature and acknowledged sometimes space and silence is needed.
“It’s creative,” Wieting said. “But it’s not like skydiving or hot-air ballooning or something ridiculous.”
Wieting said he and Hatcher make each other better by being together.
Hatcher said she thought the ad was unique, especially since it is a second marriage for both of them.
“We’re really, at this point, trying to plan a life together, not so much a wedding,” Wieting said.
In addition to placing a classified ad, Wieting proposed to Hatcher over dinner in Atlanta the same day the ad ran, where he gave her a ring they picked together.
“It was a very emotional and meaningful time,” he said.
After the 50-year-old woman accepted, Wieting showed her the classified ad on his phone. He knew she likely hadn’t seen it before the proposal because she worked that day and wouldn’t have had a chance to read the Dawson County News, to which she subscribes.
“I was very excited,” Hatcher said of the proposal. “We had been talking about this for a while. It’s not like this was any big, huge shock.”
Hatcher also said they have a lot to discuss prior to marriage.
“He’s just an amazing guy,” Hatcher said. “We make a good couple. We connected on a lot of levels. We were a very good fit for each other and I think we both realized that fairly (early) on.”
The couple met on a dating website about a year ago.
“I knew a lot earlier than she did that I wanted to marry her,” Wieting said. “I knew it was pretty special within the first couple months.”
Between the two, they have five children from previous relationships. They had hoped for a fall wedding, but with most of their children in college and spread across the country, they are opting for a July 3 wedding in Dahlonega to help with logistics.
“I didn’t feel like we needed that long to be engaged and plan a wedding,” Hatcher said. “I was sure this is what I wanted to do.”
Hatcher, a pharmacist, and Wieting, a security risk consultant, are both college-educated, have similar political and social views. Both came from a middle-class background.
The couple also share a goal of wanting to raise and educate their children to the best of their abilities.
“For me it’s really nice to be able to relate with someone who is very similar to how I think and feel and believe, and religiously as well,” Wieting said. “We’re both God-fearing-folk.”