It’s no secret that I love this time of year. Every night after dinner (and sometimes while eating it), we sit in the family room and “watch” the beautiful Christmas tree.
Most nights, we have a fire blazing and Christmas music playing. On a recent evening, we were talking about things from our pasts and the topic of forgiveness came up.
What better time of year than Christmas to talk about this topic?
The technical definition of the word is “the action or process of forgiving or being forgiving,” and “to stop feeling anger toward someone who has done something wrong,” and “to stop blaming.”
Do you have a difficult time forgiving those who have wronged you? I think if you learn about forgiveness as a child, it is much easier to practice as an adult.
I remember as a young child when a group of children were mean to me. This is now called bullying, but my mother talked to me constantly about forgiveness.
I couldn’t understand why these kids were treating me so hatefully. I hadn’t done anything to any of them, yet they were incredibly cruel.
My sweet mother, who instilled her faith in me ever since I can remember, spoke to me at length about forgiveness.
I remember her saying we don’t forgive for those who wronged us, we forgive because we are supposed to and, ultimately, it helps us and gives us peace.
Truer words were never spoken.
I’m sure that you, like me, have known people who don’t have a forgiving spirit. They are typically sad, angry and often spiteful people. These people are toxic and can wreak havoc on your life.
On the flip side, most of us have known someone who has overcome incredible challenges, such as abusive childhoods, etc., and they have completely forgiven those who wronged them, and often have gone on to devote their lives to serving others.
Most of these forgiving people don’t want to talk about themselves or the things they have overcome. They focus instead on their mission to help others.
Partly because of my job, I’ve been blessed to meet and get to know so many of these selfless people, many of whom live right here in our community.
Some have experienced horrific things in their lives, but you would never know it when you see the sheer happiness they radiate. These people are so inspiring and make you want to be a better person and do more to help others.
Do you have people you need to forgive? You don’t have to see them or call them on the phone to do so.
You can simply decide to forgive them and let go of those feelings of resentment, anger, etc.
This is such a magical time of year. Don’t let a heavy heart full of resentment or anger (even righteous anger) cause you to lose your joy.
Wishing all of you and your loved ones a very Merry Christmas.
Adlen Robinson is author of “Home Matters: The Guide to Organizing Your Life and Home.” E-mail her at firstname.lastname@example.org.